A Difficult Truth About Parents and Children

8/28/2020

I've known too many parents who hate their children.
I found a pattern.
In every case (that I've witnessed), the parent did not know how to parent. Or thought they knew, but thought rather wrong and were not open to suggestions.
In every case, the parent had expectations from the child that the child did not (could not) deliver.
In every case, the child is the one who suffers.
While the parent whines about how ungrateful their children are. Playing the victim. Seeking solace.
Where the hell are the parenting classes?
What is wrong with us that we don't teach parenting?

Father and young daughter working together

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